The Last Thing You Hear

"Ever thine, ever mine, ever ours..." These famous words are those of none other than Beethoven. The reason I feel the need to share this with all of my readers is because it raises an interesting question; to write or not to write??

Not a novel or fairytale, but the words that will be the last you hear, and say, before beginning the rest of your life, your vows. My clients often ask my opinion (because they know I have many), about whether or not they should write their own vows... My answer is definitely yes.

Traditionally, Brides and Grooms state the following, "I, (Bride), take you, (Groom), for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part." I believe that in order to spend your life with someone you must really know who they are, and who the two of you are. I don't think the words that are to define, or begin, the rest of your life with someone should be written by someone else or repeated by so many others before you. The words to begin your marriage should be defined by the two of you. Make it specific to you and the person who you have chosen to stand in front of you during that very special, life altering moment. Discuss or touch upon the things that are truly special to the both of you or research a quote from a classic master that you can relate to.

Take the initial steps of your lives together with something that is special and specific as the two of you are... Find something that defines your individual relationship, the love you feel for eachother or the thoughts you are basing your future on with that phenomenal match you have found....

Long story short, when choosing to write, or not to write... Write.